Everyone Has to Go Through It
At some point in life, everyone reaches a moment where they realize something important: this is part of it. The confusion, the discomfort, the fear, the uncertainty—none of it is unique, even though it feels deeply personal. Everyone has to go through it.
What “it” is can’t always be clearly defined. For some, it’s growing up. For others, it’s failure, heartbreak, loss, pressure, or the slow realization that life doesn’t come with clear instructions. Sometimes “it” is simply the process of becoming who you are, even when you don’t know who that is yet.
No one escapes it. No matter where you’re from, what you believe, how confident you seem, or how easy someone else’s life looks from the outside—everyone has to go through something that shapes them. And usually, it’s uncomfortable.
The Illusion That Everyone Else Has It Figured Out
One of the hardest parts of going through “it” is the feeling that you’re the only one struggling. You look around and see people who seem confident, calm, and successful. They appear to know who they are and where they’re going. Meanwhile, you feel lost, unsure, or behind.
But this is an illusion.
People are very good at hiding their struggles. Social media, casual conversations, and even friendships often show only the highlight reel. Rarely do people openly share their doubts, fears, or insecurities unless they feel completely safe doing so. As a result, it’s easy to believe that everyone else is moving forward while you’re stuck.
In reality, most people are figuring things out as they go. They’re making mistakes, changing their minds, and learning from experiences they never expected to have. Confidence often comes after uncertainty, not before it.
Growth Is Uncomfortable by Nature
Growth is not a smooth process. If it were, no one would resist it. The truth is, growing—mentally, emotionally, or personally—usually involves discomfort. It means questioning things you once believed, letting go of familiar habits, and stepping into situations where you don’t feel fully prepared.
Think about physical growth. When people grow taller, they sometimes experience growing pains. The same idea applies to emotional and mental growth. There are moments that hurt, moments that confuse you, and moments that make you want to go back to how things were before.
But staying the same comes with its own cost. Avoiding growth doesn’t prevent pain—it just delays it. Eventually, life pushes everyone forward in one way or another.
Failure Is Part of the Process
No one likes to fail. Failure feels embarrassing, discouraging, and sometimes unfair. It can make you question your abilities and your worth. Yet failure is one of the most common experiences people share.
Everyone fails at something important to them. Everyone tries and doesn’t succeed the first time. Some people fail many times before they succeed. Others fail and discover that their original goal wasn’t right for them in the first place.
Failure teaches lessons that success never could. It reveals weaknesses, builds resilience, and forces reflection. It’s not proof that you aren’t good enough—it’s proof that you tried.
And trying matters.
Feeling Lost Is More Normal Than You Think
There are times in life when you don’t know who you are or where you’re going. These moments can be frightening, especially when there’s pressure to have answers. People ask questions like:
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What do you want to do?
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Who do you want to be?
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Where do you see yourself in the future?
Sometimes, the honest answer is “I don’t know.” And that’s okay.
Feeling lost doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re in between versions of yourself. You’re shedding old ideas and slowly forming new ones. That space—uncertain and uncomfortable—is where growth happens.
Everyone passes through it, even those who seem confident now. Most people reinvent themselves multiple times throughout life.
Comparison Makes “It” Feel Worse
One of the fastest ways to make going through hard times feel unbearable is comparison. When you compare your progress, achievements, or struggles to someone else’s, you ignore one important fact: everyone’s timeline is different.
Some people discover their passions early. Others take years. Some face challenges sooner; others face them later. None of this makes one journey better than another.
Comparison steals patience and replaces it with pressure. It convinces you that you’re behind when you’re exactly where you need to be.
Everyone has to go through their own version of “it,” and no two versions look the same.
Change Is Inevitable
Life changes whether you’re ready or not. People change. Circumstances change. You change.
Sometimes change is exciting—new opportunities, new friendships, new beginnings. Other times, it’s painful—goodbyes, endings, and moments you wish you could freeze in time.
Resisting change doesn’t stop it from happening. It only makes the process harder. Learning to adapt, even slowly, is a skill everyone develops through experience.
No one starts off knowing how to handle change. They learn by going through it.
Strength Is Built, Not Given
People often admire strength in others without realizing how it was formed. Strength doesn’t appear overnight. It’s built through challenges, mistakes, and moments of doubt.
Every time you survive something difficult, you gain a little more confidence in your ability to handle the next challenge. Even when you feel weak, you’re learning endurance. Even when you feel unsure, you’re developing awareness.
Strength isn’t about never struggling—it’s about continuing despite the struggle.
And yes, everyone has to go through the moments that build it.
You’re Allowed to Take Your Time
There is no deadline for becoming who you’re meant to be. Life is not a race, even though it often feels like one. Taking your time doesn’t mean you’re lazy or unmotivated—it means you’re human.
Some lessons can’t be rushed. Some realizations only come with experience. Some healing takes longer than expected.
Give yourself permission to grow at your own pace.
What “It” Teaches Us
Going through hard or confusing times teaches lessons that stay with us:
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Empathy for others who struggle
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Patience with ourselves
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Appreciation for moments of peace
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Awareness of what truly matters
These lessons shape how we treat people, how we respond to challenges, and how we view ourselves.
Without “it,” we wouldn’t become who we are.
You’re Not Alone—Even When It Feels Like You Are
The most important thing to remember is this: you are not alone in going through difficult stages of life. Even when no one talks about it, even when it feels isolating, even when you think no one would understand—others have been there too.
They survived it. They learned from it. And so will you.
Everyone has to go through it.
But no one has to go through it forever.
The Quiet Truth
One day, you’ll look back at this phase of your life and realize how much it shaped you. What feels overwhelming now will become part of your story—a chapter, not the whole book.
You won’t always feel this unsure.
You won’t always feel this stuck.
You won’t always feel this way.
And when you meet someone who’s struggling, you’ll understand them better—because you went through it too.
Final Thought
Life isn’t about avoiding hard moments. It’s about moving through them, learning from them, and becoming stronger on the other side.
Everyone has to go through it.
And when you do, you’re not failing—you’re growing.
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